I became pregnant at the age of 16 years old. I delivered my first child at the age of 17 years old. I was used to babysitting my little brother and cousin but to actually have to take care of a child of my own when I myself was still a child, a spoilt one at that. My mom did everything for me! It was challenging being forced to give up the things I was used to doing whenever I want.
Although, it was very challenging being so young and not knowing how to care for a newborn baby, when I was just that baby 16 years ago.. Wow! I learned quickly. Day by Day my little young mothers instinct kept kicking in, and I became better and better at being a caretaker of my baby I loved so much.
Fortunately, I had a great support system. I understand don’t every teenager/person has that foundation in place. I can only imagine how hard and stressful that can be on an individual or couple. My support system allowed me to gradually learn and love how to take care of my beautiful baby girl, she was and still So Adorable!
The relationship I had with my daughter’s father and his family was amazing! They made sure they were in constant communication with me about her needs and the times she was in their care. With much determination I was able to graduate High School, go on my Prom, Sign up for College, In between college signed up at a trade school for 3 months to acquire a skill to make money quickly(Data Entry Specialist). Secured a Data Entry Job that has kept me working whenever need be…
I Shared all that to Say! What I’ve Learned In Experiencing That Season In My Life is This:
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Always be open and honest with your parents/guardians. Talking to my mom/dad or a trusted authoritarian figure about what I was experiencing or contemplating experiencing would have given me more options to protect myself and more time to develop as an adult.
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It’s Important to have a Support System! That was key to my growth & development as a young mother. I had a Clan of my close friends I grew up with as my Support System as well.
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Make up your mind that No Matter What! I’m going to Succeed In Life! As a young mother with my child growing up with me.. That was my attitude!
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I Fulfilled many goals with that positive attitude as a very young mother, It wasn’t easy all the time but when you’re determined to Win! Eventually, good things happen.
Hope my Lessons Learned will help someone!
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12 thoughts on “My Life as a Youthful Mother And What I Learned”
This was a great read and I was able to learn even more about your journey of raising me at such a young age! It definitely took perseverance and determination to do all of the things you did for me Love you mom! I am so proud of you and I always be rooting for you!
xoxo
Antoinette Dinkins
I am so happy you finally started blogging Mom! You have always journaled and even introduced it to me when I was a little girl. This is great! I even learned more than before about your journey being a young, single parent. It definitely took perseverance and determination to do and survive all the things you have done and experienced. I was rooting for you than, rooting for you now, and will always root for you! Love you forever!
Antoinette I appreciate all of your support and positive feedback.. You Motivate Me! Love Ya!
I am so proud of you chic, although you keep this from me (but it’s ok 😊) i’m proud of you. I really enjoyed reading because you are absolutely right if we didn’t have our mothers raising our girls ,child it would have been hard. But thank God for a supportive family . Also we had each other so keep writing girl because you are truly an inspiration to me and my spiritual guidance. Thank You an love You 😘
Thank you Doll !! I guess this is one little secrets you didn’t know.. I been writing in my journals for years. You was there in that season of my life. We would take turns rocking her to sleep so she would calm down and take a nap. Wow! Took me back!
Amazing testimony. You are so right, being a young mother without a clan will have your mind in a different place. I can’t wait to hear more!
I didn’t have someone to teach me of the birds and bees and therefore led me to walking in single motherhood afraid and determined to be the best that I could be all at the same time.
Hey Lakeisha!!
Yes Lakeisha! and I agree with you sometime we have to take actions and make moves Afraid!
Look at what having that Attitude! of being determined to be the best that you could be as a Mother! manifested in your life, and the life of your children.
Great read proud of you honey
Thank you Neda!
I want to Thank you as well, You motivate me to be a Go Getter! Over the years I have watched you accomplish so many awesome things as a Single Mother. I know it’s not easy all the time but You are so good at managing you & your children priorities & goals. Keep It Up! You know I’m taking notes and writing in my journal.. lol
I appreciate your story, I gave birth to my first child at the age of 15. I didn’t know what to do, abortion was never an option. With the help of the Lord and my mom I survived. I dropped out of school in the 10th grade to work and care for my daughter. By 17,I moved into my own place with the help of her great grandmother, by 18,I was pregnant with 2 child and by 21 I was stucked with 3 children in an abusive relationship. Still being a single mom,I worked a fulltime job and received childcare assistance until they reached school age. I no longer wanted to depended on government assistance because, I didn’t want to be limited in life. By the age 25, I began to buy my first home in Knoxville, Tn which didn’t last long because my relationship was toxic and I wasn’t happy by the ago 32,I began to buy 2nd home in Memphis. I stayed there a couple of years until I married and we purchased our 3rd home a couple years later. The Lord has been good to me and very rewarding. The only regret I had was not knowing and having a relationship with Jesus at an early age. I have my GED,I have been married now 19 years to this day. Not only do I know the Lord, but I have a relationship with him. I try to advise young ladies about making the right choices.
Hello Wanda!
I appreciate you so much for sharing that story with me/us! You did it! You pushed passed the limits in your life and turned your situation around for the good and the good of your children. I was raised in church , but at the age of 17, I didn’t have a personal relationship with God. It makes a difference. Keep advising young women to make better choices for their life. That’s my Mission as Well.
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